you cannot become kind by hoping you are kind you must choose to do kind things
you cannot become a positive person by hoping you are you must choose to think in a positive way
you cannot become courageous by hoping you have courage you must choose to do courageous things

you cannot gain a skill by hoping you'd be good at it you must choose to practice doing it
you cannot recover from mental illness by hoping one day you will, you must choose actions that bring you closer to your recovery goals

hope is the first step
if you only take one step on a marathon the marathon will never be run