hating on polyamorous people is hilarious (ly dumb) because the obvious solution is don't date them. cannot overstate how easy it is not to date people. [THIS POST IS APPROVED BY THE ACEAROS.]
it is soooooooooooooooo easy to not date people
"but I don't think people can equally love multiple partners --" okay well unless that partner is you, the fuck how is it your business.
real
nobody who hates others for who they love is ever willing to admit that things they don't like or feel threatened by for whatever reason don't actually affect them at all, because that means it is a problem with them they'd have to examine.
I saw a bad post on tumblr and got 9AM angry about it.
I don't want to date poly people because my coworker is poly and has had so much relationship drama with it that I'm exhausted just remembering
when your relationship drama story needs a character bio sheet that's when it's like pleas
People who are terrible at communication have more opportunities to totally beef it with the more partners they need to accommodate.
this basically
Right. You can simply not join a polycule. You can say No thanks
monogamous relationship drama can be just as bad or worse ime, and involve just as many people. most of the poly drama i hear isn't actually poly drama it's 'we opened the relationship because x wanted to see other people and y didn't want to break up and it exploded' so ymmv.
as long as nobody's intentionally harming others it feels like a personal problem to hate on how other people live. like if i said no one should eat blue cheese, it's wrong, just because it makes ME sick. it does not affect my life that someone else does, i can just say more for them!
(the poly drama I've heard from my friend is specifically poly drama of the type "my husband's girlfriend blocked me because her friend blocked my boyfriend and she felt called out" and "my boyfriend's partner's partner doesn't [safe sex] with their partner")
But yeah hating on people for their relationships that don't personally affect you is dumb
But yeah hating on people for their relationships that don't personally affect you is dumb
pretend I included the word "practice" in tehre
yeah like every issue I have ever heard in poly happens the same in monogamous. chronic lack of expectations being discussed.
me, autistic lunatic mom friend, would be a nervous wreck. "what do you mean John didn't show for your date!! should I start calling local hospitals???"
on the upside I bet the spreadsheets are fire. I'd love that. let me into the poly relationship so I can organize.
here's the thing about being poly
if one of them breaks up with me I already have other partners
win/win