bloggeriesthinksFriend->Fan is lame. If someone friends befriend or reject. When rejected it should just disappear; doesn't mean they want to be your fan.
posted on June 13, 2008 at 06:57PM
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June 13, 2008 at 18:58bloggeriessaysif someone wanted to follow you they could of just clicked follow. They requested friendship not to be a fan.
June 13, 2008 at 18:59Pleasantisa little confused about fans & friends. ie: I have some fans who don't seem to want to be friends. Confusing.
June 13, 2008 at 19:00Pleasantthinkshis ie should probably have been an eg
June 13, 2008 at 19:01LindaZI don't always want to follow someones timeline/convos but they are welcome to follow mine, their choice
June 13, 2008 at 19:02martinbogowhy are you posting and deleting so quickly?
June 13, 2008 at 19:02martinbogoThis one topic, three posts or so...
June 13, 2008 at 19:02Chris Kiliansaysyou become a "fan" of others who reject your friendship, I think
June 13, 2008 at 19:03Chris Kiliansaysyou might be able to visit their profile page and click a link that says "do not follow" this person, that would un-fan you from that person
June 13, 2008 at 19:03jayseaesaysfriends can send private plurks, fans cannot. It's like friends and acquaintances. Nothing wrong with different levels of relationships.
June 13, 2008 at 19:03jennrif i don't know a person from life or internet, then I tend to fan them unless they are super interesting and low maintenance
June 13, 2008 at 19:03bloggeriessaysLindaZ exactly so if they request a "Friend" and you say no that' that. If they then notice and want to follow you so be it.
June 13, 2008 at 19:03CassiopoeiaEh - they can delete being my fan if they don't like it - or interact more, be funny & I'll request an add from them myself.
June 13, 2008 at 19:03Chris Kilianfeelsthe friend/fan thing is a little lame
June 13, 2008 at 19:03jayseaesaysit can also change in the future - I may often be a fan back to someone - but I generally only befriend someone that I know personally.
June 13, 2008 at 19:04bloggeriessaysmartinblogo because I have 140 characters and thought of a better way of expressing it so that's what I did.
June 13, 2008 at 19:04techgirl♥baconi friend everyone and then move to not follow because of the sheer volume or nature of plurks. i'll check out their stream though.
June 13, 2008 at 19:06papoanayasaysI just start as a fan, if they want to be friends, they receiver can initiate it. No pressure.
June 13, 2008 at 19:07LindaZyes I agree if a fan starts communicating with me and we create a friendship then I would change it to fan...
June 13, 2008 at 19:07jennrif 100s of plurkers weren't posting the same "OMG if you were a fish, what flavor water would you swim in" questions
June 13, 2008 at 19:08techgirl♥baconor the people who have 3498734563 plurks about raising their karma. wish i could filter basted on keywords
June 13, 2008 at 19:09jayseaesaysI agree with papoanaya on this one, but it goes both ways. Assuming someone wants to be your friend is as bad as denying their friendship.
June 13, 2008 at 19:11jennristempted to whisper scoble in techgirl's ear
June 13, 2008 at 19:11jennrthinksit is foolish to believe anyone can participate with quality if they are following 1000s of ppl
June 13, 2008 at 19:12LindaZnow I am plurkin lots & geting friendin requests frm people I dont knw and who havent been in conv w/me to tell me why they wnt to b friends
June 13, 2008 at 19:13ThatDudesayslindaz like a plurk friend application?
June 13, 2008 at 19:14techgirl♥baconla la la la not listening la la la.
June 13, 2008 at 19:14codyrobertsaysLindaZ I add those people anyway. If you haven't already talked to them they won't talk much anyway but if they do its worth the while
June 13, 2008 at 19:15jayseaesaysah, but there's the problem - the privacy setting is for "friends". If everyone is your friend, you're hosed!
June 13, 2008 at 19:15bloggeriessaysJennr - I know people who have 5 friends in real life and have troubles keeping up with them. I know others with 000's of acquaintances.
June 13, 2008 at 19:16jayseaesaysif you choose, yes - but not if you use the privacy setting in your account.
June 13, 2008 at 19:17Lelirasaysfriends supposed to be people you know, and fans, people you follow to know better.
June 13, 2008 at 19:17martinbogoIt's hard to have any real relationships with that many followers, you become more like a comedian, or politician
June 13, 2008 at 19:17martinbogocan, and does, regularly talk with almost all his friends though, RL and here.
June 13, 2008 at 19:17bloggeriessayslelira every friend I have today is someone I once didn't know.
June 13, 2008 at 19:24jennri have a friend that was once a hamster
June 13, 2008 at 19:24LindaZvrsandersjr cute idea, not necessary... but if they conversed with me, I would get to know a litttle what got them to want to friend me
June 13, 2008 at 19:25LindaZI become a fan of someone I am interested in becoming friends with or want to know what they are up to
June 13, 2008 at 19:25LindaZI can always request they friend me again later if we really start communicating
June 13, 2008 at 19:26martinbogoruns around in a steel wheel, drinks from a plastic bottle, looks at JennR and says "Squeek?"
June 13, 2008 at 19:26bloggeriessaysI purposely become a fan of someone I want to follow not necessarily interact I may have nothing to say to them but I do want to learn from.
June 13, 2008 at 19:26techgirl♥baconregardless, i think its kinda judgy to assume there is a right way or a wrong way to friend or fan someone.
June 13, 2008 at 19:26bloggeriessaystheir knowledge or be aware of the plurks they are putting out if they are cutting edge on the ball.
June 13, 2008 at 19:27LindaZI want to be able to follow and read all the convos that are in my timeline... right now that is already impossible
June 13, 2008 at 19:28LindaZthe only way is to choose who I follow and fan... not really judgy... just a time constraint
June 13, 2008 at 19:28bloggeriessaystechgirl same that's why I don't think it's right to become a fan of someone you wished to befriend. If you wanna friend, friend, fan, fan.
June 13, 2008 at 19:29justinzeroonly makes friend requests to people he knows in real life. but if other people want to friend me, who am i to reject?
June 13, 2008 at 19:29bloggeriessayssome people I may not want to follow me because I would bore them probably but I love what they right about. Hence I'm a "fan"
June 13, 2008 at 19:29martinbogoinvokes godwin's law, just to get it out of the way "Trying to control the friends->fan connection is downright Fascist!" There.
June 13, 2008 at 19:29martinbogoNow we don't have to worry about the invocation of Godwin's wrath.
June 13, 2008 at 19:29LindaZhow do you know that in advance?
June 13, 2008 at 19:30martinbogomight also have to invoke Jenn's Law though .. someone needs to take Scoble, LaPorte, or Doctrow's name in vain.
June 13, 2008 at 19:30techgirl♥baconi see nothing wrong with making someone a fan instead of a friend when they requested to be a friend. i thought thats what started this all
June 13, 2008 at 19:32jennrpeople who demand to be friends are called stalkers
June 13, 2008 at 19:46LindaZhey it is the internet... there are no rules, maybe some etiquette, but U get to choose what works best for U, Ur friends will play or not
June 13, 2008 at 19:55bloggeriessaysjennr exactly we aren't demanding friendship a rejection is cool. Stalker: Someone who follows after they were rejected friendship.
June 13, 2008 at 19:59bloggeriessaysanother way of looking at it is. If someone rejects your friendship who is to say they even want you following them?
June 13, 2008 at 20:00techgirl♥baconi don't agree with that definition of stalker, fwiw
June 13, 2008 at 20:01bloggeriessaysI didn't think you would but that's cool. I'll agree to disagree.
June 13, 2008 at 20:50QuirkyJessiasksis it better/preferable to add as friends or as fans when finding someone you want to follow?
June 13, 2008 at 20:50bloggeriessaysquirkyjessi everyone has an opinion. Do what you feel is right
June 13, 2008 at 20:50bloggeriessaysread the thread for a taste of what the plurkiverse thinks
June 13, 2008 at 20:52QuirkyJessisaysblah, blah, blah. That's not the question. I did skim through responses, but not getting the answer I'm looking for yet.
June 13, 2008 at 20:52QuirkyJessisaysI'll just keep watching others to see what I should do. Thanks.
June 13, 2008 at 21:00jennrI guess if you don't friend everyone, you'll never know who is "facilitating" the "conversation" with their "insightful" questions or whatev
June 13, 2008 at 22:03techgirl♥baconlol at the social community expertism
June 13, 2008 at 22:03AttorneysaysIf you won't be friends, then I will sue you.
June 14, 2008 at 16:47WilliamShakespearesaysYour hopes and friends are infinite
June 15, 2008 at 01:46margalitsaysI don't really know what to DO with my fans. It feels weird knowing that they follow me, but dont interact.
June 15, 2008 at 02:16PlurkSenseisaysbut it allows them to follow what you're saying, it just won't go both ways. I think it's more convenient.
June 15, 2008 at 02:17PlurkSenseisaysnot only that, you DO have the option to reject the request altogether.
June 15, 2008 at 12:38CassiopoeiaMy rule is, I read their plurks. If there's nothing I respond to I fan them. If I am interested enough to respond, I friend.
June 17, 2008 at 01:02Awflasher(阿瓦)asksThat just depends on what you think plurk is?
