briehasissues Nov 06, 2008 06:11PM I have realized that no matter what I do I can't win. So I'm just going to give up.
Kiki says Nov 06, 2008 06:42PM Are you my long lost sister?! I assume you are talking about the same thing you were earlier. I have said that so many times.
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 02:42PM We could be sisters. I've said that so many times reading your blog! Yep, I'm talking about the same thing.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 02:55PM my men seem to think I am not serious and I think that ticks me off even more. The fact that how I feel doesn't matter, I guess.
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 02:58PM my man doesn't back me up with the kids at all. I tell them to do something and he says they don't have to. He thinks kids aren't supposed
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 02:59PM to do anything. So I end up having to do everything and my kids think that I'm just talking to hear my head rattle
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:02PM In my case it is mostly the man and the oldest. My husband can be completely oblivious to anything but his own stuff, and sometimes,...
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:03PM isn't the most sensitive and compassionate person her could be. My oldest (and now the younger ones are starting) see it and learn it.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:03PM I get zero credit for how much I do for them. It is like I lost intelligence when I took off my combat boots and stayed home with them.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:04PM Being an Army family, it is just reality that the family tends to circle around the soldier. Been there, done that, I get it and accept it.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:05PM But nowhere does it say I have to be disrespected. I am THE most understanding and accomadating wife he could have and he knows it.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:05PM But you can't just give up or you will end up hating yourself. That is where I am now and I am fighting like hell to get out of it.
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 03:13PM I feel better about it than I did yesterday. It's just that sometimes everything feels like it's crashing down around me. I do so much
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 03:14PM around here, but I still feel useless because I don't work anymore. He works and brings in all the money but I'm used to being the provider.
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 03:15PM I want to feel in control of things again. And I want to be the best I can for him, but sometimes it seems like he doesn't even try.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:15PM That was hard for me, too. I was a soldier for so long and I wasn't used to staying at home. But I realized just how much I really do now.
briehasissues says Nov 07, 2008 03:15PM He'll say and do things that he knows is going to piss me off, then gets mad at me for getting pissed off and it drives me crazy!
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:16PM I guess I just don't like being taken for granted. I may not work outside the home anymore, but I provide a lot in my own area.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:16PM I literally am responsible for EVERYTHING it takes to keep this family going. I don't mind it since he is off doing Army stuff all the time
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:17PM But I deserve some credit, too. THey treat me like I am stupid, but I am the first person they come to for help.
Kiki says Nov 07, 2008 03:18PM They don't see how much I do to support them and to make their lives easier. I am like a couch, easy to dismiss.
