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  • Jane Chin
    I agree, David! Realistically though, it is hard to rise about the anger of a betrayal at work for many.
  • Jane Chin
    Yep! That was my #1tip on dealing with a backstabber: keep your emotions to yourself! (I give 6 tips total)
  • Despil thinks
    breaking both arms usually solves the problem :-)
  • Despil says
    seriously what DavidBridger said makes a lot of sense. Also I found that people can't handle when they sense that for you
  • Despil
    it's not the end of life and universe. it takes away the sweetness of being a weasely prick.
  • DebInAustin says
    a boss who had left our dept. was still trying to influence our decision making and sent a fax to this co-worker I found it by accident and
  • DebInAustin says
    turned around and faxed it to the new boss' private fax line. He didn't know who faxed it to him, but came down to our office in a hurry.
  • DebInAustin says
    I am not saying that was the most constructive thing to do, but felt it necessary to let the new boss know what was up.
  • Jane Chin
    DebInDenver you did the right thing! that person was subverting and poisoning the workplace
  • Jane Chin
    here's my website reminder: REMEMBER: If your workplace is full of backstabbing coworkers, it means that backstabbing works at this company.
  • Jane Chin
    You are in a toxic company. Polish your interview skills, update your resume, and get the heck out of there!"
  • DebInAustin says
    the sad thing is, I have seen this at a number of companies/organizations. I can see how institutional culture is top down.
  • Despil says
    janechin absolutely, selfpreservation and survival instincts should play an important role in your life - private and professional
  • Jane Chin
    yep, that's why I say if there are lots of backstabbing behavior, it means it works at this company and is the way to get ahead! leave!
  • DebInAustin says
    I see so many people who let themselves get sandbagged by this toxicity and never make it out, the get depressed and start to believe there
  • DebInAustin says
    is nothing better out there. Energy vampires take hold of them...
  • LaShae is
    seeing that I made the right decision to leave when I did, the one co-worker who backstabbed viciously is now Senior Analyst over dept.
  • DebInAustin says
    that's terrible LaShae. You guys know about Bob Sutton's blog, don't you?
  • Jane Chin
    oh man, ItyBites i'm sorry to hear it! that's why my tip#5 is about saving yourself an ulcer....
  • DebInAustin says
    Bob Sutton wrote the "No Assholes Rule" his passion is trying to get a--- out of the work place. He has a top ten list of what you should do
  • DebInAustin says
    in that environment. Let me get you the link. His first piece of advice is to get out of there.
  • DebInAustin says
    this is his post on doing a reverse background check on potential employers is.gd/27t2
  • Jane Chin
    oh wow! great list! i should include that.
  • DebInAustin says
    yeah. I love this guy and the fact that he takes a leadership role in the topic. He works at Stanford's Design school of all places.
  • DebInAustin says
    a young alumni from my school just used it after I recommended it. She used for several employers and got a lot of great info. Really helped
  • DebInAustin says
    narrow down her decision.
  • Jane Chin
    that is an excellent tip re: reverse bgd check!
  • DebInAustin says
    I think it takes some skill to illicit info from people, but if you see a high turnover rate, then you know something is up & don't need to
  • DebInAustin says
    bother contacting them.
  • LChamp says
    geez...I could have written that book...and I retired in 1996. Nothing has changed much since I went up through the ranks. I used to
  • LChamp says
    lecture about the 2 organizations in a corp...the formal and the informal...the key was to get your informal organization strong.
  • LChamp says
    when I became senior manager and later president, I identified and used the informal organization to achieve good results
  • onepinktee
    I totally agree - you need an ally who will watch your back. And document, document, document.
  • onepinktee
    Cause you never know when you'll have to defend yourself.
  • LaShae says
    yes and sum up verbal conversations in email for confirmation and send before EOD, preferably right after convo w/ backstabber
  • DebInAustin says
    I am with onepinktee. I document *everything* that comes from doing political work too.
  • LaShae
    also have witnesses or do what I did my final few weeks there, I took my voice recorder into the meetings and made it *very* visible
  • Jane Chin
    oh gosh ItyBites it really sounds like a very dramatic ordeal
  • LaShae
    prbly *I* created more drama than necessary w/ this being my first *real* large corporate job and w/ people fired daily for minor stuff

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