| Jane Chin | asks | for your serious tips on dealing with backstabbing coworkers (I get emails from professionals about this problem via my career website)! |
Sep 01, 2008 -
08:30PM
| Jane Chin | asks | for your serious tips on dealing with backstabbing coworkers (I get emails from professionals about this problem via my career website)! |
| Jane Chin | I agree, David! Realistically though, it is hard to rise about the anger of a betrayal at work for many. |
| Jane Chin | (also: I'll be adding Plurkers' tips with your links on this site: www.backstabbingcoworkers.com) |
| Jane Chin | Yep! That was my #1tip on dealing with a backstabber: keep your emotions to yourself! (I give 6 tips total) |
| Despil | thinks | breaking both arms usually solves the problem  |
| Despil | says | seriously what DavidBridger said makes a lot of sense. Also I found that people can't handle when they sense that for you |
| Despil | it's not the end of life and universe. it takes away the sweetness of being a weasely prick. |
| DebInAustin | says | a boss who had left our dept. was still trying to influence our decision making and sent a fax to this co-worker I found it by accident and |
| DebInAustin | says | turned around and faxed it to the new boss' private fax line. He didn't know who faxed it to him, but came down to our office in a hurry. |
| DebInAustin | says | I am not saying that was the most constructive thing to do, but felt it necessary to let the new boss know what was up. |
| Jane Chin | DebInDenver you did the right thing! that person was subverting and poisoning the workplace |
| Jane Chin | here's my website reminder: REMEMBER: If your workplace is full of backstabbing coworkers, it means that backstabbing works at this company. |
| Jane Chin | You are in a toxic company. Polish your interview skills, update your resume, and get the heck out of there!" |
| DebInAustin | says | the sad thing is, I have seen this at a number of companies/organizations. I can see how institutional culture is top down. |
| Jane Chin | yep, that's why I say if there are lots of backstabbing behavior, it means it works at this company and is the way to get ahead! leave! |
| DebInAustin | says | I see so many people who let themselves get sandbagged by this toxicity and never make it out, the get depressed and start to believe there |
| DebInAustin | says | is nothing better out there. Energy vampires take hold of them... |
| LaShae | is | seeing that I made the right decision to leave when I did, the one co-worker who backstabbed viciously is now Senior Analyst over dept. |
| DebInAustin | says | that's terrible LaShae. You guys know about Bob Sutton's blog, don't you? |
| Jane Chin | no, what's the blog debindenver? |
| DebInAustin | says | Bob Sutton wrote the "No Assholes Rule" his passion is trying to get a--- out of the work place. He has a top ten list of what you should do |
| DebInAustin | says | in that environment. Let me get you the link. His first piece of advice is to get out of there. |
| DebInAustin | says | here is the tip list is.gd/27sT |
| DebInAustin | says | this is his post on doing a reverse background check on potential employers is.gd/27t2 |
| Jane Chin | oh wow! great list! i should include that. |
| DebInAustin | says | and main page is.gd/27tb |
| DebInAustin | says | yeah. I love this guy and the fact that he takes a leadership role in the topic. He works at Stanford's Design school of all places. |
| Despil | DebInDenver I like the idea of reverse background check. |
| DebInAustin | says | a young alumni from my school just used it after I recommended it. She used for several employers and got a lot of great info. Really helped |
| DebInAustin | says | narrow down her decision. |
| Jane Chin | that is an excellent tip re: reverse bgd check! |
| DebInAustin | says | I think it takes some skill to illicit info from people, but if you see a high turnover rate, then you know something is up & don't need to |
| DebInAustin | says | bother contacting them. |
| LChamp | says | geez...I could have written that book...and I retired in 1996. Nothing has changed much since I went up through the ranks. I used to |
| LChamp | says | lecture about the 2 organizations in a corp...the formal and the informal...the key was to get your informal organization strong. |
| LChamp | says | when I became senior manager and later president, I identified and used the informal organization to achieve good results |
| onepinktee | I totally agree - you need an ally who will watch your back. And document, document, document. |
| onepinktee | Cause you never know when you'll have to defend yourself. |
| LaShae | says | yes and sum up verbal conversations in email for confirmation and send before EOD, preferably right after convo w/ backstabber |
| DebInAustin | says | I am with onepinktee. I document *everything* that comes from doing political work too. |
| LaShae | also have witnesses or do what I did my final few weeks there, I took my voice recorder into the meetings and made it *very* visible |
| LaShae | prbly *I* created more drama than necessary w/ this being my first *real* large corporate job and w/ people fired daily for minor stuff |
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