JaneChin asks do you believe that each of us has 'a' (as in 'one') life purpose? i used to think so and spent much effort looking; now i'm not sure.

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  August 10, 2008 at 20:16 ThoughtWrong thinks that we actually have many. I have a kid and family and I know that is one of mine for sure
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:16 ThoughtWrong however I know that there is more that I must be doing and growing upon in order to achieve a higher understanding of the things that be
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:17 ThoughtWrong If in fact we do only have one life purpose then that purpose would have to be "our entire life"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:17 JaneChin thoughtwrong I think we have many as well, but often we are led to believe there is 'ONE calling', therefore attempt to find what this is
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:18 rosasay says I agree w/thoughtwrong that we have many. Human beings have amazing capacity and abundance
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:19 rosasay says janechin I give people "calling coaching" but w/intention to help them focus and enjoy their current passions, not to restrict them
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:20 ablereach says I've had a few, & right now have lost track. Maybe that means I'm between "one" purposes, or maybe my meaning of life gene is on sabbatical
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:20 JaneChin rosasay i used to provide "core essence coaching", which i learned from someone who created process to identify a person's "core essence"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:21 ablereach says I do think we're generally healthier when we have a guiding center
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:21 JaneChin it sounds similar to your aim as well, to focus on current passions
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:21 sonnygill i don't think we have one purpose in life. i dont expect to have one sole purpose in life but many that can effect myself and others equally
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:22 rosasay says kinda connected to that other talk-story we had about remaining present vs eternally onto the next thing
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:21 JaneChin ok guys then help me understand this: why are we conditioned to ask this question "what should I do with my life and how do I get there?"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:22 JaneChin don't you think implicit in this question is "the one thing to do that is RIGHT" if not doing it, then you're not living your potential?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:24 ThoughtWrong well what you should do with your life is a great question because if you do nothing with it then was it not a waste
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:23 ThoughtWrong however "What should I do with my life never implies that there is only one thing you should be doiung
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:24 ThoughtWrong ex: What should I do with my life. Well I want to have kids, get married move to california have a great job as a computer guru, etc
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:26 rosasay says thestrangers Aloha. Your "cultural thing" comment is interesting to me: Can you share more?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:26 ThoughtWrong thinks "What should I do with my life" translates to "What are my short, medium, and longterm goals" thats GOAL**S** with a plural
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:27 Glyphrunner says we're raised from birth to be better and more advanced than our parents. They demand that we find our way and calling to be better than they
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:26 JaneChin thoughtwrong, did you come to this multi-goal conclusion for yourself, or did you understand that the question is about multiple goals?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:27 Glyphrunner says personally, I have been searching for my purpose beyond raising my daughter. I don't seem to really have one. I don't impact the world.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:27 JaneChin rosasay i was also curious about the cultural aspect, because that can be very influential.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:29 JaneChin glyphrunner you don't think that raising your child is a critical and extremely importance purpose in itself? (i'm asking also as a new mom
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:29 JaneChin dealing with a transitioning identity from career/bizwoman to new mom)
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 JaneChin sonnygill I agree with your take on it as well - many purpose
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 rosasay says glyphrunner I think you probably impact the world more than you realize, e.g. as Jane says about child-raising, & so many more ways
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 Glyphrunner says oh no, I definitely think that's extremely important, but it has really become my one and only purpose: provide for and raise daughter.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 sonnygill agrees with thestrangers - its a part of the 'plan' and what we're 'supposed' to do
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 JaneChin thestrangers thank you for bringing this point! US is indeed very identity focused. Can you give some examples of other cultures and how
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:29 JaneChin they may answer this question (or if they even need to ask the question)
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:30 JaneChin rosasay but I understand where glyphrunner is coming from. it has been ridiculous for me when my identity suddenly changed from
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:31 JaneChin "head of corp" to "mom 1.0"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:31 sonnygill doesnt mean you're not living to your potential if you don't follow a specific plan but you're just taking your own route.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:32 Glyphrunner says unless she or one of her descendants does something amazing or life/world altering, I can't see that I've done much for the world.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:31 ThoughtWrong says well janechin, I just know that in the beginning you asked why we are set to chose only one life purpose
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:32 ThoughtWrong says then you say the comment of "what should I do with my life?" I see that as asking what are my goals in life
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:33 gwfrink3 says can we not seek to be "centered," yet practice acceptance, so that we may serve many purposes, as they emerge?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:33 ThoughtWrong says and that in retrospectnever asks for only one. had you said "what one thing should I do with my life?" that would be a different story
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:32 JaneChin sonnygill in the US society though, "having a plan" is almost expected. if you don't have a plan, then people will think you're lazy or
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:33 JaneChin clueless
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:34 JaneChin glyphrunner the challenge though, is that sometimes we are catalysts for other people doing amazing things, and we may never even know it.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:34 ThoughtWrong says "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:33 ThoughtWrong says ^^true in most cases^^\
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:34 rosasay says thank you for the insight thestranger - I have Russian ancestors! It is true that the "American dream" pushes accomplishment
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:35 JaneChin thoughtwrong I see how you're interpreting it. When I first saw the question, though, I thought about "one overarching thing in life"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:35 JaneChin versus many goals. perhaps up to individual interpretation of question?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:36 JaneChin gwfrink3 i have a feeling it's hard to be "centered" when we are conditioned in a society to be "self-centered"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:36 JaneChin thestrangers when you say there is less compartmentalization, do you mean people see their work=life?
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:38 rosasay says re identity change JaneChin tell me about it! Must say you have "worn it well" my friend
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:43 rosasay says gwfrink3 you have a good point about acceptance... it is an abundance and not scarcity mentality. "And" instead of "either/or"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:45 JaneChin says ablereach perhaps you are in transition and therefore "state of formlessness"
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:46 JaneChin says rosasay the identity change was when I decided to spend 1 year and participate in bb's life. as result, made drastic cuts to biz life.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:46 JaneChin says although i chose, i quickly realized how ingrained my "biz/career" roles were a part of my identity, including $ earned.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:47 JaneChin says talk about the "western, objective form of thinking"; a philosopher I knew said I was a master of it.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:48 JaneChin says (the opposite would be the "eastern, subjective type of thinking")
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:49 rosasay says janechin One of the best gifts I ever got from my son was his statement that being a working mom made me the kind of mom he needed to have
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:51 rosasay says that work-family balance forces choices continually, and I think our kids watch how we make them versus what they end up to be
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:52 rosasay says versus what the choice ends up to be that is, not the child!
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:52 gassho says life purpose is on 1 level, more your external activity, production & contribution.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:52 gassho says your gem is an essence, maybe a handful of qualities, with 1 or 2 that shine most.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:53 gassho says how your gem looks externally may change thru life, thus you may or may not have 1 purpose. but the gem qualities remain.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:56 rosasay says ah gassho you seem to be taking us into the strengths-mgt, innate talent discussion now, another fascinating one to have!
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:56 JaneChin rosasay I agree. children watch adults and either directly or indirectly adopt their values
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:58 gassho says yes, don't know if it's mgmt. inborn qualities that certainly need to be owned. also more than strength or talent. more soul qualities.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:58 JaneChin interesting analogy with gems, gassho! i like it.
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  August 10, 2008 at 20:58 rosasay says that's what my son meant I think Jane: luckily, the work both I and their dad did gave my kids a healthy attitude about the workplace
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:01 rosasay says gassho agree, thus I have always liked the word "calling" that Jane somewhat started us talking here with. it implies you must listen
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:00 rosasay says ...listen to your own voice, own talent, own curiosity and imagination, own creative urge
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:02 rosasay says mahalo thestrangers Now back to the mom thing, have to step away for a moment to put a load of laundry in!
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:04 JaneChin gassho perhaps we may confuse ourselves with what we're really looking for. gem qualities? or how the gem reflects in the outside world.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:04 JaneChin gassho the gem talk reminded of a workshop I took years ago, it seems to be based on the DISC theory but the person used gems
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:05 JaneChin (like diamonds, rubies, emeralds, sapphires etc)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:04 JaneChin oh wait, there are no diamonds (on purpose)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:05 JaneChin thestrangers it tries to describe your personal type based on a precious stone. for example if you are ruby then you would be this way,
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:07 JaneChin but if you are an emerald then you would be that way.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:07 gassho says your gem(s) is thematic, archetypal, part of your essence. you may have a gem quality that makes everyone very comfortable around you.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:08 gassho says in the world that may translate as having a successful coffee house franchise. or you may end up a groundbreaking therapist. or both!
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:11 Glyphrunner wonders the same thing as thestrangers
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:12 gassho says there may be, don't know one, but it's part of info that grows out of inner work teachings...
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:13 gassho asks doesn't james hillman call it your daimon?
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:16 JohnnyRokkit says I don't believe anyone has any specific purpose intended for us. Circumstances, motivation, happenstance is all there is.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:17 JaneChin i think the one I attended was loosely based on this en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DiSC_assessment
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:19 JaneChin (and not with a spiritual dimension as gassho may be talking about)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:19 JaneChin brb I need to feed bb!
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:25 rosasay thinks my gem is a lava rock Like the thought of my essence being the aloha spirit...a good goal for me to have, always
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:25 Moistress thinks we have a purpose, but it is not always the same
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:52 Myrnaslist says Eckhart Tolle says are primary purpose is to be a shining light for the next person-doesn't matter what you 'do'(your everyday business is)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:54 Myrnaslist says its the same no matter-be sharing, caring and loving with compassion to all peoples of the world.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:54 Myrnaslist says probably more than Tolle says that
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:54 JaneChin Tolle is a good representative for being present and with as little ego as humanly possible.
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:56 JaneChin i loved what he said to someone asking him (via O's webcast when i was following it) how being present jives with having goals and planning
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:56 JaneChin for the future (people tend to think one precludes the other)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:56 JaneChin and he said something like, to be able to plan for the future and be present while doing the planning, and without attachment to the future
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:57 JaneChin (i'm totally butchering it, just how i interpreted the answer)
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:58 LindaZ says oh no... you ask this question... my niche when I am not around.-lol- oh well I promise to read later and respond to you all, xoxz
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:57 LindaZ says The Purpose Connector
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:57 JaneChin lindazimmer i thought your coaching specialty was something along these lines!
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  August 10, 2008 at 21:58 JaneChin the plurk will be around, some of us had life stuff to tend to so it's kind of like a revolving impromptu philosophy seminar LOL
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:09 LindaZ says I am a business coach whose niche is to take people through a process of 5 methods to find their life purpose, then I support them in...
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:10 LindaZ says bringing one of the 3 facets of purpose (which I call their purpose process) into their business and or their personal life.
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:11 LindaZ says This will make their business life easier, probably more profitable, they will be happier, in alignments with what they do everyday... and
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:12 LindaZ says most important they will feel freedom and totally self-espressed
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:13 gwfrink3 says yes rosasay, it is an abundance/acceptance centeredness, in some regards an activist approach to Myrnaslist "shining light."
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:14 LindaZ most people when they talk about purpose, are really talking about mission... while that is part of the equation there is more to it...
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:19 IamGay! says this plurk reminds me of that song from Avenue Q titled "Purpose"
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  August 10, 2008 at 22:23 LindaZ I need to go back and read what each of you have plurked here, will do that overnight ... this is a conversation I would love to play in w/U
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  August 11, 2008 at 01:57 DSN life exists. what happens happens.
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  August 11, 2008 at 02:02 DebInDenver says I think we have multiple life purposes and that they may change with different phases of our lives.
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  August 11, 2008 at 02:46 JaneChin darn if i had plurk years ago, i could have saved myself a ton of trouble and got my answers right here
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  August 11, 2008 at 02:46 JaneChin DebInDenver i agree with you
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:06 LivSimpl.com says Yup.
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:05 LivSimpl.com says (As in, yes, I believe there is a single purpose.)
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:08 Abbreviated glorify God our Creator
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:13 JaneChin livsimpl how did you find your single purpose?
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:13 JaneChin Abbreviated glorify in what way?
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:30 Sir Proudgamer Nope to "be" that is what we are here for. Some people have driven themselves insane searching for more
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  August 11, 2008 at 17:46 JaneChin i wonder where this drive comes from, sirproudgamer
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  August 11, 2008 at 18:29 TheresaWhite says I believe so. janechin - yours may be to get the rest of the world thinking!
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  August 11, 2008 at 18:45 Sir Proudgamer Jane, I think the desire to be important is as strong a desire as the desire to be loved. Even if it just means being important to a few
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  August 11, 2008 at 18:45 Sir Proudgamer The idea that someone was created with a goal would aid the feeling of importance
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  August 11, 2008 at 18:46 claricedesign hi Jane! you stole my question! Wasn't here, so now I have to read through another long janechin discussion!
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  August 11, 2008 at 19:16 LivSimpl.com says Similar to Abbreviated, I found it through my particular faith. I believe there is a God and he hasn't just left us down here...
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  August 11, 2008 at 19:17 LivSimpl.com says ... but has a plan for us. As we work toward fulfilling that plan, we find purpose, happiness and direction.
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  August 11, 2008 at 19:24 Sir Proudgamer This is interesting, I think that the answer is going to vary from religion to religion
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  August 11, 2008 at 19:52 Glyphrunner says I definitely do not see it as a religious question as I have no religion to speak of. I see it as a personal philosophy and priorities.
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  August 11, 2008 at 20:09 Sir Proudgamer Allow me to clarify I do not consider this a religious question, however I think some religions will have a specific answer to this
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  August 11, 2008 at 20:45 JaneChin theresawhite you may be onto something re: me getting people to think
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  August 11, 2008 at 20:46 JaneChin i also see it as a philosophical question, although given the nature of philosophy is to find the "truth" and religions claim to have the
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  August 11, 2008 at 20:46 JaneChin "truth", they may be related and relevant depending on the individual.
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:34 Hope says You know, I've spent most of my life thinking/feeling that, and feeling like I'm chasing my tail and am clueless.
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:36 Hope says Could this be why I rarely feel great happiness?
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:36 Hope says I've always had this feeling like I don't know what my purpose in life is.
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:47 claricedesign I think purpose in life comes from within. What your core beliefs are, what do you want out of life, what is your nature. The job you get or
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:47 claricedesign whether you have children, take care of your parents, contribute to the world as a whole, is how you apply the purpose. Is your purpose to
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:50 claricedesign develop something that will affect the world, or that will keep your family healthy and whole? Do you thrive energy and conflict, or are you
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:51 claricedesign someone who is introspective and spiritual? How will you apply your nature? Purpose does not have to be one thing for now or forever.
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:52 claricedesign It can and probably will change and grow as you change and grow. I think frustration comes when someone is not fully in touch with who they
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:51 claricedesign are, what's important to them as an individual, where they fit into the world or their community. Or if they are transitioning due to
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:51 claricedesign growth, setback, internal or external change, or the end of a previous purpose.
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  August 11, 2008 at 21:53 LivSimpl.com says I believe the answers to life - Where did I come from? Why am I here? Where am I going? - have been answered. Then again, I'm religious.
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  August 11, 2008 at 23:11 LivSimpl.com says Re-reading that it may have come across as snooty - that wasn't my intention!
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  August 12, 2008 at 00:06 Hope says Very interesting conversation here, that's for sure. I needed this today, too.
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  August 12, 2008 at 00:09 JaneChin HopeWilbanks part of the reason may be because you haven't yet decided what happiness means to you, or what purpose you will choose.
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  August 12, 2008 at 00:10 JaneChin I think you raised a good point livsimpl - those who have a guiding principle via religion or spiritual belief free up that energy to do...
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  August 12, 2008 at 00:12 JaneChin but if you do not have this,or if you feel that purpose is something you "find", then you spend energy looking for it, or determining it.
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  August 12, 2008 at 01:03 LivSimpl.com says So Jane, if I understand you correctly, those who have a guiding principle/religion/faith are able to act on that...
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  August 12, 2008 at 01:04 LivSimpl.com says ...while others are still seeking?
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  August 12, 2008 at 01:49 JaneChin not exactly; i am not sure religion precludes the desire to search.
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  August 12, 2008 at 01:48 JaneChin but it can reduce some anxiety and doubt during the search (i.e. god has a plan for me)
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:18 Hope says I agree with JaneChin. I am a deeply religious person, full of faith, but that hasn't stopped me from feeling like I'm missing something.
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:17 Hope says My faith in God definitely secures me, though.
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:19 JaneChin HopeWilbanks not to put thoughts in god's mind but... god did give man the ability to invent the word, "Why"
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:24 DavidBridger says I believe God gives us free will and creativity, and encourages us to use them
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:30 Hope says I believe that, too, David. And I came back to say that I think a lot of my "issues" stem from the fact that I went from.....
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:32 Hope says Being a very independent, in control of my world, kind of gal, to married, with 2 kids and a stay at home mom
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:32 Hope says I lost my independence and lost myself in the process
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:32 Hope says Now both are in school, and I'm in school, working on earning my degree so I can teach.
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:31 Hope says In some ways, I feel like I am on the path to feeling like I have purpose again.
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  August 12, 2008 at 10:32 Hope says Does this even make any sense?
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  August 12, 2008 at 11:08 DavidBridger says makes sense to me, Hope
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  August 12, 2008 at 13:40 MatthewBennett says Really interesting Plurk guys. I've been thinking a lot about this topic for the last few days too (maybe it's the holidays) and came across
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  August 12, 2008 at 13:41 MatthewBennett says an American called Rick Warren who talks about a 'purpose driven life' which I think you all might find interesting given the conversation
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  August 12, 2008 at 13:41 MatthewBennett says Here at a TED talk: www.ted.com/index.php/talks/rick_warren_on_a_life_of_purpose.html
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:37 LivSimpl.com says Matt - That's an excellent talk.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:43 LivSimpl.com says (aside - I'm getting a weird error)
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:42 LivSimpl.com says HopeWillbanks - my impression is that you see your identity as coming from your education/career...
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:42 LivSimpl.com says ...not as a wife/mother. Is that accurate?
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:45 Hope says Maybe so. I think I've felt like I've been defined by my motherhood for so long that I lost *ME*.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:45 Hope says I love being a wife and mother, but I want more out of life than just that.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:46 LivSimpl.com says Conversely, then, are you defined by your career? Your ed degrees? Or is that *the* question?
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:48 Hope says I'd have to say no, since I don't have any degrees just yet.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:49 Hope says That's just it.....I don't know what defines me.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:49 JaneChin HopeWilbanks and livsimpl I've been dealing with this very topic this year; identity as wife/mother and where "career/biz" role fits
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:51 JaneChin and I already KNOW that getting a degree doesn't make me get closer to life purpose
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:50 JaneChin (much to my chagrin)
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:51 LivSimpl.com says
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:50 Hope says Oi. Don't tell me that janechin
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:51 Hope says I think that's what I'm counting on....a career making me feel important/with purpose again.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:51 LivSimpl.com says "The most important work you will ever do is within the walls of your own home."
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:54 claricedesign I think a career can give your life purpose, depending on what it is and what it means to you.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:53 Hope says True, LivSimple.com but sometimes you need more than that.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:54 JaneChin you know what the funny thing is, is that I already know the answer, but doesn't mean I know how to execute on the answers that I know!
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:55 Hope says What happens when my kids are grown and gone? I'm left an old, angry woman b/c I lived my life feeling like something was missing?
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:54 Teeg says Hope I have a degree, I am a wife and mother, and none of them made me content. My husband kept encouraging me to follow my heart...
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:55 JaneChin I took this topic, wrote a speech in '07 and competed with it in a toastmasters competition, and the speech ended with my answers
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:56 JaneChin (wanna see the speech transcript?)
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:56 Teeg and after trying writing (what everyone else wanted me to do), finally this year I decided to take my hobby and the one thing ...
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 Hope says I'd be very interested in hearing that speech Jane
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 Hope says YES, please!?
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 Hope says So what did you do Teeg?
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 Hope says My husband encourages me too. I just DON'T KNOW what will finally ever make me happy.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:56 drb74 says new spiritualists would say you have one purpose: to experience the highest vision of the grandest version of you, that you can imagine.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 drb74 says and then imagine higher
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:58 Teeg I couldn't give up, and turn it into a business. Friends say I'm doing what I was born to do, and they're right. I LOVE everything I do now.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 JaneChin it's called "That I Am" www.peerlessprofessionals.com/that-i-am
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:58 Hope says Most of the time I feel like I don't have any direction in life.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:57 Hope says Thanks for sharing janechin
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:59 JaneChin ... "I am That I believe I am. My self esteem does not sway to criticism or flattery.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:59 Teeg laughs thought I mentioned (must have erased it) that the thing I couldn't give up was teaching about and studying social media.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:59 JaneChin " I have crystal clear vision of my true self even if I can’t see where life takes me.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:59 JaneChin I believe success and strength come from living in integrity. I am not here - as you are not here - to live up to expectations.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:58 JaneChin " I am here to experience and to enjoy life.
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  August 12, 2008 at 15:58 JaneChin (skip a few stanzas)
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:00 JaneChin "It took a decade for me to open my eyes and see my two selves. A false self that feeds in darkness,
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:00 JaneChin "and a true self that gives the light of the heart.
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:03 Hope says I paused reading to come say that I don't think I have ever just sat down and wrote out my beliefs. Maybe that's a good place to start.
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:03 JaneChin can be very helpful to do a self inventory HopeWilbanks
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:04 Hope says I also think I *really* need to first learn how to allow myself/what I do to be good enough.
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:04 Hope says I am VERY critical of myself and everything I do. And this came to light last week, when...
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:03 Hope says I made a 100 on a paper, but I still wasn't happy with it. My husband flipped out. "If you aren't happy with a PERFECT grade," he said....
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:03 Hope says "Then when will you ever be happy with your work?"
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  August 12, 2008 at 16:05 Hope says But even though I made a 100 on that paper, I felt like it wasn't good enough. I didn't feel like I earned or deserved the 100.
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