| LParisi | says | Just picked up my daughter from Friendly's early.She called upset cause she was being harassed by mean girls who were not part of her group. |
Aug 08, 2008 -
08:46PM
| LParisi | says | Just picked up my daughter from Friendly's early.She called upset cause she was being harassed by mean girls who were not part of her group. |
| LParisi | says | Now trying to help her figure out how to deal with bullies. Her friends certainly didn't know how to handle the situation. Do I? |
| Teryl | hates | that kids can be so mean sometimes! Hope your daughter is feeling better now! |
| LParisi | says | I so worry about this. Have heard too many bully stories gone wrong. This was not the first time she was bullied but this woas the worst. |
| Teryl | says | bullying is so tough to handle...back in the day we were just told to ignore--don't think that works anymore-but what to do? |
| dkenney | I've dealt with this before...I've called mean girl's families and talked about it. |
| sharon_elin | wonders | if girls are much more intensive & pervasive bullies than boys, because they ostracize victims socially... I've seen so many wounded!  |
| trossman1 | says | that's terrible! Tell her to hang in there! I hate that stuff |
| JackieB | I wish I had some advice for you. Let us know what happens. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | I think I might call the other parent as well. They will probably deny it, but your daughter will know you're fighting for her IF she wants |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | you to do that. I think parents are sometimes never told (or don't hear) and you need to go on record letting them know. As a teacher, you'd |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | want the parent to talk directly to you. |
| LParisi | says | Told her she did the right thing by calling me. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | absolutely...tell her we are proud of her |
| LParisi | says | She didn't want to be nasty back because she's afraid of backlash. |
| ✿honeymic | says | hurts moms and dads a lot to see them hurt. Hope she can recover quickly. |
| cathyjo | says | and we really think those girls were WRONG |
| cathyjo | says | 2 wrongs dont make right--Ali made the right choice |
| cfox2 | asks | are these girls she knows and are they the ones that bullied her? |
| cathyjo | says | just tell her to keep making good choices despite what others do |
| dmcordell | says | monitor very carefully to see if this is taken online. Cyberbullying is worse than f2f -24/7, escalates. |
| cfox2 | wishes | I had taken the workshop this summer about bullying. We will be learning more about how to deal with this in the coming school year. |
| cfox2 | says | friend did attend the workshop. Could ask her if you like. |
| LParisi | says | I told her the law requires teachers and staff to deal with bullying..that all students have the right to a safe environment |
| LParisi | says | I do not want this to continue in school or online. |
| cfox2 | asks | would you like me to ask my friend what the progam suggested? It is the OLWEUS bullying prevention program. |
| cfox2 | thinks | that is the website. |
| LParisi | says | Sure, thanks. |
| cathyjo | says | Lisa be sure to have a conversation with Ali so you'll know if it is taken online. Is there anything we can do? |
| SDSherry | says | Our school uses the OLWEUS bully prevention program. The tips given to kids include hanging out in groups and telling adults. |
| SDSherry | says | We do a lot of explaining about how bullies have self-esteem problems of their own. |
| SDSherry | says | Good support at home is key to a child who is being bullied to get through it. |
| SDSherry | says | I wish you both all the best. Bullies are the worst! |
| cfox2 | says | I sent an email to her and if I don't hear from her in the morning, I will call her. Wishing you both the best. I really hate bullying. |
| pelgin | says | I hate hearing about good kids getting bullied! She's lucky to have a mom who understands & will support her if it continues. |
| LParisi | says | Been through it myself...started in 8th grade too. Want her to be much happier in school than I was. |
| SDSherry | says | Lisa, can you call the school and ask that she be in different classes than these bullies and give them a heads up about the situation? |
| LParisi | says | I was thinking about that. But they set up two teams...one with honors classes and one without. So if these girls are in honors classes .. |
| LParisi | says | then I am out of luck. |
| cathyjo | says | still school should know-u r-her best advocate right now |
| SDSherry | says | At least let the teachers know the situation so they can help |
| JackieB | I'd let the teachers know. I know I'd want to know before hand. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | Me, too...just to keep an eye on your daughter |
| LParisi | says | She just told me these girls are not in honors classes...is that a surprise? |
| LParisi | says | Ok sorry...that was mean. |
| SDSherry | says | Not mean and not unexpected. Sounds like they are jealous or threatened. |
| SDSherry | says | I am glad they aren't in her class, but you still need to let the teachers know so they watch out for her between classes. |
| LParisi | says | I will do that. |
| bookjewel | Very hard to get to the bottom of girl bullying I think. So many undercurrents and 'hidden' stuff |
| Loonyhiker | says | i miss Friendly's! we don't have it down here in SC |
| CereseG | says | my 8th grade daughter hates MS. MS girls are the most vicious creature on the planet! |
| megbg | says | yuck. I am glad she called you. How old is she? |
| LParisi | says | She's almost 13 - 8th grade. I emailed the principal and guidance counselor to make an appointment. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | I think that's a good idea. I'd be interested to hear how this turns out. |
| LParisi | says | I will keep you all informed. BTW..she says she is not being bullied. I say when a girl makes fun of you every day on the bus... |
| LParisi | says | to an entire bus audience and then makes you leave your friends early, coming into the car in hysterics, that we are dangerously close. |
| Loonyhiker | says | maybe we need to help kids recognize when they are being bullied  |
| LParisi | says | Thinking that. Oh, that reminds me...I had a situation where I dropped Ali off at a party and the mom was drunk. I asked Ali if she was... |
| cleisure | says | loonyhiker I think you are right. |
| LParisi | says | often like that. She said yes but didn't know it meant she was drunk. We talk about it but she has never seen anyone at home drunk. |
| LParisi | says | Maybe it is time for video showing drunken behavior? What if she had gotten in a car with this mom? |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | what a thought. Isn't it amazing that we think kids just know this stuff when in fact, it is their first time? |
| cathyjo | says | wow this could also be a future topic for the show |
| LParisi | says | Yes, Cathy. What does a drunk look like? What does bullying look like? |
| cleisure | says | Wow. You are right. We need to teach our kids what this looks like. |
| LParisi | says | So how do we do that? Get drunk in front of them? |
| cathyjo | says | not sure...drunk goggles works for the driving point. |
| mindelei | says | There are plenty of movies out there that show these type of behaviors. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | we role play what a bully would do on the playground and what kids should do when they encounter it |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | responsive classroom also works for talking about feelings in the classroom |
| Loonyhiker | says | bet u didn't plan on yr daughter tching us all lessons today  |
| LParisi | says | Just decided with Maria. Our August 17th show will be about dealing with bullies. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | could be your most popular one...especially if you focus one show and dealing with girl bullies and another with boys. They are so different |
| LParisi | says | So who's going to guest? Stacy? |
| cathyjo | says | cool |
| cfox2 | says | I tried to get in contact with my friend that took the Owleus |
| cfox2 | says | Olweus training but couldn't get her. Tried another one too and no luck. Will try again tomorrow. |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | What time? I've never done that before, but always willing to try. |
| LParisi | says | Sunday, August 17, 11:30 AM Eastern. |
| LParisi | says | Conversation is through skype with a chat room at edtechtalk.com/live. |
| LParisi | says | We have a show tomorrow same time..come see what it's all about |
| RobnMartin | says | How old is she??? |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | I will...if I'm home from church. thanks for the invite. |
| RobnMartin | says | I mean your daughter, not StacyKasse! |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | too funny |
| RobnMartin | shares | your frustration with mean girls. I teach middle school and girls are tough.the alcohol mom is just as bad too |
| megbg | says | I had a real bullying problem in my 4th grade this year. we had NOVA in for awesome presentation |
| megbg | says | Network of Victims alliance |
| megbg | says | I also did a lot of class meetings |
| 1/2012☆ stacy | says | class meetings are excellent. Unfortunately, the ones who need them, fifth grade and up, seem to forget about it in the time crunch. |
| LParisi | I use Responsive Classroom. We have meetings. But now I have to deal with it as a parent. Much harder. |
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