LParisi says Just picked up my daughter from Friendly's early.She called upset cause she was being harassed by mean girls who were not part of her group.

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  August 08, 2008 at 20:47 LParisi says Now trying to help her figure out how to deal with bullies. Her friends certainly didn't know how to handle the situation. Do I?
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:47 Teryl hates that kids can be so mean sometimes! Hope your daughter is feeling better now!
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:49 LParisi says I so worry about this. Have heard too many bully stories gone wrong. This was not the first time she was bullied but this woas the worst.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:52 Teryl says bullying is so tough to handle...back in the day we were just told to ignore--don't think that works anymore-but what to do?
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:53 dkenney I've dealt with this before...I've called mean girl's families and talked about it.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:53 sharon_elin wonders if girls are much more intensive & pervasive bullies than boys, because they ostracize victims socially... I've seen so many wounded!
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:54 trossman1 says that's terrible! Tell her to hang in there! I hate that stuff
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:56 JackieB I wish I had some advice for you. Let us know what happens.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:56 stacy 7/09 says I think I might call the other parent as well. They will probably deny it, but your daughter will know you're fighting for her IF she wants
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:57 stacy 7/09 says you to do that. I think parents are sometimes never told (or don't hear) and you need to go on record letting them know. As a teacher, you'd
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:58 stacy 7/09 says want the parent to talk directly to you.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:58 LParisi says Told her she did the right thing by calling me.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:59 stacy 7/09 says absolutely...tell her we are proud of her
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:00 LParisi says She didn't want to be nasty back because she's afraid of backlash.
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  August 08, 2008 at 20:59 ❤honeymic says hurts moms and dads a lot to see them hurt. Hope she can recover quickly.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:00 cathyjo says and we really think those girls were WRONG
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:00 cathyjo says 2 wrongs dont make right--Ali made the right choice
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:01 cfox2 asks are these girls she knows and are they the ones that bullied her?
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:01 cathyjo says just tell her to keep making good choices despite what others do
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:01 dmcordell says monitor very carefully to see if this is taken online. Cyberbullying is worse than f2f -24/7, escalates.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:02 cfox2 wishes I had taken the workshop this summer about bullying. We will be learning more about how to deal with this in the coming school year.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:01 cfox2 says friend did attend the workshop. Could ask her if you like.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:10 LParisi says carolfox Yes, she knows the bullies. They go to school with her.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:11 LParisi says I told her the law requires teachers and staff to deal with bullying..that all students have the right to a safe environment
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:11 LParisi says I do not want this to continue in school or online.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:19 cfox2 asks would you like me to ask my friend what the progam suggested? It is the OLWEUS bullying prevention program.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:20 cfox2 thinks that is the website.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:21 LParisi says Sure, thanks.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:21 cathyjo says Lisa be sure to have a conversation with Ali so you'll know if it is taken online. Is there anything we can do?
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:22 SDSherry says Our school uses the OLWEUS bully prevention program. The tips given to kids include hanging out in groups and telling adults.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:22 SDSherry says We do a lot of explaining about how bullies have self-esteem problems of their own.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:21 SDSherry says Good support at home is key to a child who is being bullied to get through it.
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:23 SDSherry says I wish you both all the best. Bullies are the worst!
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  August 08, 2008 at 21:31 cfox2 says I sent an email to her and if I don't hear from her in the morning, I will call her. Wishing you both the best. I really hate bullying.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:01 pelgin says I hate hearing about good kids getting bullied! She's lucky to have a mom who understands & will support her if it continues.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:02 LParisi says Been through it myself...started in 8th grade too. Want her to be much happier in school than I was.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:03 SDSherry says Lisa, can you call the school and ask that she be in different classes than these bullies and give them a heads up about the situation?
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:06 LParisi says I was thinking about that. But they set up two teams...one with honors classes and one without. So if these girls are in honors classes ..
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:06 LParisi says then I am out of luck.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:07 cathyjo says still school should know-u r-her best advocate right now
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:06 SDSherry says At least let the teachers know the situation so they can help
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:13 JackieB I'd let the teachers know. I know I'd want to know before hand.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:13 stacy 7/09 says Me, too...just to keep an eye on your daughter
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:14 LParisi says She just told me these girls are not in honors classes...is that a surprise?
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:15 LParisi says Ok sorry...that was mean.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:30 SDSherry says Not mean and not unexpected. Sounds like they are jealous or threatened.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:30 SDSherry says I am glad they aren't in her class, but you still need to let the teachers know so they watch out for her between classes.
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  August 08, 2008 at 22:33 LParisi says I will do that.
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  August 09, 2008 at 03:51 bookjewel Very hard to get to the bottom of girl bullying I think. So many undercurrents and 'hidden' stuff
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  August 09, 2008 at 05:04 Loonyhiker says i miss Friendly's! we don't have it down here in SC
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  August 09, 2008 at 05:53 CereseG says my 8th grade daughter hates MS. MS girls are the most vicious creature on the planet!
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  August 09, 2008 at 08:35 megbg says yuck. I am glad she called you. How old is she?
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  August 09, 2008 at 16:48 LParisi says She's almost 13 - 8th grade. I emailed the principal and guidance counselor to make an appointment.
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  August 09, 2008 at 18:49 stacy 7/09 says I think that's a good idea. I'd be interested to hear how this turns out.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:01 LParisi says I will keep you all informed. BTW..she says she is not being bullied. I say when a girl makes fun of you every day on the bus...
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:01 LParisi says to an entire bus audience and then makes you leave your friends early, coming into the car in hysterics, that we are dangerously close.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:05 Loonyhiker says maybe we need to help kids recognize when they are being bullied
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:05 LParisi says Thinking that. Oh, that reminds me...I had a situation where I dropped Ali off at a party and the mom was drunk. I asked Ali if she was...
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:06 cleisure says loonyhiker I think you are right.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:08 LParisi says often like that. She said yes but didn't know it meant she was drunk. We talk about it but she has never seen anyone at home drunk.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:08 LParisi says Maybe it is time for video showing drunken behavior? What if she had gotten in a car with this mom?
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:19 stacy 7/09 says what a thought. Isn't it amazing that we think kids just know this stuff when in fact, it is their first time?
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:31 cathyjo says wow this could also be a future topic for the show
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:44 LParisi says Yes, Cathy. What does a drunk look like? What does bullying look like?
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:45 cleisure says Wow. You are right. We need to teach our kids what this looks like.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:46 LParisi says So how do we do that? Get drunk in front of them?
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:49 cathyjo says not sure...drunk goggles works for the driving point.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:53 mindelei says There are plenty of movies out there that show these type of behaviors.
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  August 09, 2008 at 19:59 stacy 7/09 says we role play what a bully would do on the playground and what kids should do when they encounter it
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  August 09, 2008 at 20:00 stacy 7/09 says responsive classroom also works for talking about feelings in the classroom
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  August 09, 2008 at 20:01 Loonyhiker says bet u didn't plan on yr daughter tching us all lessons today
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  August 09, 2008 at 21:46 LParisi says Just decided with Maria. Our August 17th show will be about dealing with bullies.
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  August 09, 2008 at 21:47 stacy 7/09 says could be your most popular one...especially if you focus one show and dealing with girl bullies and another with boys. They are so different
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  August 09, 2008 at 21:54 LParisi says So who's going to guest? Stacy?
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  August 09, 2008 at 21:54 cathyjo says cool
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:03 cfox2 says I tried to get in contact with my friend that took the Owleus
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:04 cfox2 says Olweus training but couldn't get her. Tried another one too and no luck. Will try again tomorrow.
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:28 stacy 7/09 says What time? I've never done that before, but always willing to try.
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:28 LParisi says Sunday, August 17, 11:30 AM Eastern.
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:30 LParisi says Conversation is through skype with a chat room at edtechtalk.com/live.
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:29 LParisi says We have a show tomorrow same time..come see what it's all about
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:35 Robin Martin says How old is she???
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:36 stacy 7/09 says I will...if I'm home from church. thanks for the invite.
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:36 Robin Martin says I mean your daughter, not StacyKasse!
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:42 stacy 7/09 says too funny
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  August 09, 2008 at 22:44 LParisi rmom352 She is almost 13.
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  August 09, 2008 at 23:01 Robin Martin shares your frustration with mean girls. I teach middle school and girls are tough.the alcohol mom is just as bad too
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  August 10, 2008 at 00:45 megbg says I had a real bullying problem in my 4th grade this year. we had NOVA in for awesome presentation
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  August 10, 2008 at 00:45 megbg says Network of Victims alliance
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  August 10, 2008 at 00:45 megbg says I also did a lot of class meetings
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  August 10, 2008 at 08:05 stacy 7/09 says class meetings are excellent. Unfortunately, the ones who need them, fifth grade and up, seem to forget about it in the time crunch.
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  August 10, 2008 at 08:20 LParisi I use Responsive Classroom. We have meetings. But now I have to deal with it as a parent. Much harder.