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  • JustJen
    I completely agree. What happens when the spotlight is off is what defines who you are and what your character is made of
  • Myrnaslist says
    oh tests much more than self esteem :-)
  • Myrnaslist says
    we are SO NOT our fame
  • Jane Chin asks
    have you all seen as i have that many still believe "if i'm successful then i'll feel better about myself" (or if i buy X or make $Y salary)
  • Jane Chin says
    even though we all know this makes sense, social pressure makes us believe in the opposite. (at least I did and I was miserable)
  • DebInAustin says
    or, "if I just had more money, everything would be OK."
  • pritcharddesign
    yes, I know people who think that. It's a shame. They expend so much energy trying to get there when it won't bring happiness.
  • Myrnaslist says
    "only way to achieve true joy and fulfillment is by becoming a being of sharing" :-)
  • DaveWebb feels
    that lots of fame & fortune can often lead to heartache for many people, because they have a hard time passing the test.
  • pritcharddesign
    and they find it didn't bring happiness after all.
  • Jane Chin asks
    then where is our disconnect? we intellectually know fame/$ doesn't lead to "fulfillment" at the deepest level, yet much of our behavior
  • Jane Chin asks
    show the opposite beliefs.
  • LivSimpl.com says
    I think the same could be said for money/wealth.
  • LindaZ says
    tied into one bundle pple think if they have fame, they will have more money and be wealthy... which as we all know does not always mean...
  • LindaZ says
    high self-esteem
  • LindaZ says
    magazines, tv and just watching others from the outside gives pple false impression of happiness and self-esteem... they think that the
  • LindaZ says
    outside representation of a person's life is how they feel... as we all know it is not always the case
  • Jane Chin says
    lindazimmer well said. based on how much TV people watch, it's hard not to have some of that message infiltrate.
  • DSN
    john belushi, janis joplin, kurt cobain are all examples of that.
  • DSN
    external validation is a killer
  • gwfrink3 asks
    drb74, does anything shine brighter than the hearth fire in a home where we love and are loved?
  • LindaZ says
    the messages we receive from society are not all true... we grow up believing in fairy tales, for women some day our prince will show up...
  • LindaZ says
    it is meant to be and we will live happily every after is another one... just like we will have self-esteem when we are rich & famous
  • LindaZ says
    I totally agree with Jane's initial statement fame tests self esteem
  • LindaZ says
    wait a minute... I celebrate men and think all the men in my life are kings... I just don't believe life is a fairy tale (g_girl_kiss)
  • Jane Chin says
    drb74 but don't we assume a facade too? not at the same level as celebs, but c'mon, how often do we tell the TRUTH in a job interview (and
  • Jane Chin says
    i mean ALL of the truth). like "why are you leaving your company?" oh... for growth opportunities instead of "my boss sucks"
  • Jane Chin asks
    lindaZ do you think this message (re: waiting for prince) still rings true for today's girls? thought it wouldn't be as much as 20yrs ago
  • Jane Chin says
    drb74 I can honestly say that at least 50% of my success is bc my husband's support (not $) and belief in me. He's my prince and rock.
  • Jane Chin says
    drb74 I"m not sure I understand; do you mean your wife wanted to be "independent"?
  • LindaZ says
    janechin U probably could answer that question better than me... my point has been that it is society's messages that has pple believe...
  • LindaZ says
    these concepts of fame=wealth=self-esteem...
  • affiliatecoffee says
    self esteem is required in the first place to get fame. after that,either it(self esteem) goes up or down-depends on the individual entirely
  • Jane Chin says
    maybe we don't have the "right idea" about self esteem either. doesn't always mean "feel great about self". when i was suffering from
  • Jane Chin says
    clinical depression, trust me, i felt like i was crap. but for some reason i didn't want to give up on myself either (came close). so if you
  • Jane Chin says
    asked me if i had self esteem back then, i'd say "no" but in retrospect, maybe not giving up on yourself IS self esteem. not the "feel good
  • Jane Chin says
    type of hype" we're fed a lot of today.
  • DSN
    couldn't get off the couch when i had clinical d

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